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I will love you for who you are, not what you appear to be. 

These are the words every person wants to hear.  These are the words that will penetrate the hardened armors of our souls.  Our appearances or measurable qualities do not necessarily represent who we believe ourselves to be.  Only a person who is willing to spend time with you will know what you really are, and what your best qualities are.  That is what what friends, families and lovers are for.  You spend time with a person not because you believe something good will come out of them- you spend time with them because you have no other choice.  According to my personal experience, I have made better friends with people whom I did not take an instant liking to.  The people who I did like were simply good looking, and they did not have much to offer in other areas.  I became best friends with people who made the worst first impressions.  It is sad if we have to choose our friends or lovers or family members out of their measurable qualities.  What makes these relationships so special and important is their unconditional nature, free from the criterias we impose upon strangers to judge their usefulness to ourselves.  If we impose these criterias on our friends or family or lovers, we are essentially no different to strangers or business relationships.